I have three boys and worked with children in various ways most of my life. I have seen every kind of temper tantrum known to man.
Wikipedia tells us….
A tantrum, temper tantrum, meltdown or hissy fit is an emotional outburst, usually associated with children or those in emotional distress, that is typically characterized by stubbornness, crying, screaming, violence, defiance, angry ranting, a resistance to attempts at pacification, and, in some cases, hitting, and other physically violent behavior. Physical control may be lost; the person may be unable to remain still; and even if the “goal” of the person is met, he or she may not be calmed.[
Wow….this is intense. We have all experienced either with our own children or witnessed this in someone else’s.
Children have temper tantrums to do one thing…get what they want. Yes they are angry and emotional upset but truly it comes down to not getting thier way.
My oldest son was quite good at these…he had decided that he would just hold his breath. He figured that the love of his mother would kick in and I would rush to make sure he wasnt hurting himself or causing discomfort and give him what he wanted. Well it was hard…but what he didn’t realize was that I knew that God had wired our bodies with a little switch that wouldnt allow us to just decide not to breath. We pass out and our body will begin to breath without anything we can do about it. Leaving us fine but a huge headache as a consequence to our actions.
So sometimes as parents, friends, bosses, pastors , teacher we have to learn to not give undue attention to bad behavior and let God and Life handle the consequences. We all have temper tantrums….and we will all experience the consequences of those tantrums. Hopefully we will learn very quickly that they dont work.. Or maybe we will take many more times to figure it out. Either way God will never abandon us during out childish fits. He does at times be silent while we figure things out. He loves us and is right there while we face our consequenses.
The bible gives us some great tips on avoiding the consequences from acting out of anger.
Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.
“Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.”
So whether we are 2 years old and don’t want to sit in our car seat or 35 and don’t want a certain political candidate to win. If we have a tantrum it does nothing but leave us with a pounding headache.