What is a fair weather friend? The dictionary says it is a friend who is your friend when it is easy and convenient to do so but stops when you are going through something hard .
I have had many of these. Sometimes it is so heartbreaking. It makes you feel so alone when the people who claim to love you want you to be there for them through their struggles but when you go through tough times they all bail. It makes trusting hard and makes believing there are actually people who value others feelings and aren’t selfish.
My friends scorn me: but mine eye poureth out tears unto God.
Job 16:20 KJV
My kinsfolk have failed, and my familiar friends have forgotten me.
Job 19:14 KJV
Job felt like this in the bible. He was a good man who loved God and went through a time in his life where it could be compared nothing less than Hell. When he needed friends and family the most they all turned on him and were nowhere to be found. But he cried out to God. He never stopped. Even the darkest of days.
He went through this time where most would have thrown in the towel but God was with him and gave him strength to press forward.
How many of us know this feeling. We struggle in silence. We get angry because we feel used by friends who we have run to when they have needed us but when we needed them they were nowhere to be found.
A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
Proverbs 18:24 KJV
Proverbs talks about a special friend. One that sticks closer than a brother. Oh that sounds amazing. Well it is! It is Jesus. He never leaves you or forsakes you. He walks hand and hand right through the hottest of fires and he will always be there to give you the strength you need to perservere.
Who knows more about fair weather friends than Jesus. He created the world and they turned their back on him.
He came unto his own, and his own received him not.
John 1:11 KJV
Then Jesus did what no other friend would do. He gave his life for us. He died for us.
But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
Romans 5:8 KJV
Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
John 15:13 KJV
So no matter what life throws at me. Even if friends and family aren’t there or forsake us. I know that I am never alone. I have the best friend anyone can ask for. I Just reach out my hand and he is there. It gets me through the loneliest of times. It helps me when I am angry and feel abandoned. I know Jesus experienced everything I feel in much greater lengths. He sees me…He understands me.
LET HIM BE YOUR BEST FRIEND. It helps. It is the greatest comfort in troubling times.
Love and Blessings