Friend or Foe

I dont like this quote.. “If you want to see who your real friends are screw up and then see who sticks around.” Let me explain. I believe true friends and family stick around but I also believe that sometimes it is necessary to remove ourselves from relationships which are not good for us. True friendships grow together and lift eachother up. True friendships arent onesided and draining. True friendships are a beautiful blend of give and take. True friendships arent afraid of honesty.

The bible says in Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.

Sometimes real friendship means having to be real and honest with the other person

True friendship talk to your face not behind your back. If a friend or family member is offended and tells others and not you they arent interested in hearing your side of things they only care that they are right and you are wrong. This isn’t healthy communication.

True friendship isnt jealous of your successes. Real friends are your greatest fans. They should cheer you on the loudest. If they arent cheering when good things happening. Be careful that they arent secretly drilling holes in your boat trying to sink you.

It is ok to walk away and distance yourself from a person who is hurting you.

Proverbs 22:24-25 Do not be a friend of one who has a bad temper, and never keep company with a hothead, or you will learn his ways and set a trap for yourself.

God made friendship a beautiful thing to enhance our lives and strengthen us. If it isnt doing this and it is causing you pain and constant stress it’s ok to distant yourself and make sure this friendship or relationship is God ordained and the best for you.



I want to encourage you today to take a look at how we look at others. As Mothers and friends and Christian’s we sometimes tend to judge others based on our standards. I want to to encourage us to look at others through the loving eyes of Jesus and use understanding and caring and a posture of serving others.

It does nothing helpful to whisper judgemental comments of others or look down our noses at those that haven’t been afforded the same life experiences or blessings we have been givin.

I am challenging us to extend our hand at then end of 2018 and as we enter the new year to make extra effort to lift others up. Give generously. That doesn’t have to always mean monetarily but what about giving of our time to just spend time with a young mother or a shut in. How about volunteering at church or a local non profit. Galatians 6:2 says it all.

Christmas is about giving! We might never know how that can change a life.



I can be PRO-LIFE and be PRO-WOMAN.

Why do people have to be one or the other. I can want woman to be treated with respect in the workplace. I can be infuriated by woman and girls being objectified. I can be proud of woman who break out of molds that society puts on us and live proud that I’m not a size 0. I can be all these things and still believe that Life begins at the moment of conception and just because It is in my body that I have a right to kill another human being. I can love that life and respect it. Giving a baby the chance at life whether or not it is raised by you is by far the greatest gift you can give. JUST BECAUSE YOU BELIEVE IN A WOMAN HAVING RIGHTS DOESN’T MEAN YOU DON’T BELIEVE IN THE RIGHT OF THE UNBORN CHILD AS WELL. Don’t let society make you pick a side. We believe in what is RIGHT regardless of popular opinion.

I am a Pro-life Woman who is also Pro-Woman.

Do it anyway!

How many of us have experienced the crushing blow of putting your all into something only to see limited results?

Maybe its dieting…spending weeks eating healthy and skipping your favorite treats only to see the scale remain the same. What about being frugal and saving extra money only to have to replace something on a car that depletes our efforts to zero. What about serving at church Sunday after sunday and getting not as much as a nod of recognition for it. Maybe you spent months working and researching and putting extra effort into a project at work only to be passed over for the lead position you wanted. It can be so discouraging. It can make anyone feel like just giving up and not trying any longer.

This happens to the disciples as they fished all night and caught absolutely nothing. Jesus showed up and in the most discouraging time told them to go back out and do it again. Boy that can really make a person angry. It can you make you feel super frustrated. You have done things like this for so long you feel like you did your best and now Jesus is asking you to give more. We trust our own feelings and we think we know best but do we?

The bible tells us to TRUST and OBey….

When he had finished speaking, he said to Simon, “Put out into deep water, and let down the nets for a catch.” Simon answered, “Master, we’ve worked hard all night and haven’t caught anything. But because you say so, I will let down the nets.” When they had done so, they caught such a large number of fish that their nets began to break.
Luke 5:4‭-‬6

When we DO IT ANYWAY despite our feelings. God is free to do the miraculous. He is free to do what he does best. But if we turn away and stubbornly refuse because we are hurt or frustrated we WILL miss out on God’s best for us. DO IT ANYWAY!

You never know when your blessing will come it could be one more dip of the net away.

Have an amazing day.


First Snow

20181109_0622392550754512180951293.jpgAs I sit sipping my coffee and preparing for my day I took a quick peek out the window to see how the morning was shaping up.   I saw the snow on the ground and again I turn into a little girl…I loved the first snow as a child.  It meant christmas was right around the corner.   If you know me at all you know I am the CINDY LOU WHO of my family.  My christmas tree is always the first to go up.      I love how the first snow blankets theground in sparkly stark white.  It sticks to the trees and leaves everything looking like a winter wonderland.  It makes you forget what’s underneath. It is like a new beginning.   I always thought of the first snow as alittle magical.

It reminds me of Gods grace and mercy.  How they are new every morning.   It doesn’t matter what happened the day before we can be assured that we can begin again with God.  His forgiveness washes us completely clean and gives us a brand new start.   We are sparkly white like the first snow.

Isaiah 1:18 ESV 

“Come now, let us reason together, says the Lord: though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall become like wool.

Lamentations 3:22-24

Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed,
Because His compassions fail not.
 They are new every morning;
Great is Your faithfulness.
“The Lord is my portion,” says my soul,
“Therefore I hope in Him.

I hear some little voices walking up my driveway.  It is time to start my day.

Have an amazing day and remember his mercies are like new fallen snow.



I don’t need anyone!

How many of you can attest that sometimes it feels like people are more work and drama then they are worth. They let us down while expecting us to do the exact thing they are inept in themselves.

So we get angry and shut ourselves away. We swear to never rely on anyone ever again. We won’t open ourselves to that kind of let down again. We get angry and bitter.

Then the storms come…the winds beat at our resolve and the rain dampen our spirit and flood our emotions with self doubt. Soon we are lonely and angry and unable to stand any longer.

We aren’t created to face life alone.

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Genesis 2:18

Right from the beginning God wanted us in community with one another. We hold each other up during the times we are our weakest.

In California there is a redwood forest. I haven’t been there but I have seen pictures and have read about it. The trees are massive and there is alot of them. You would think that the height and width of these trees would require thier root system to be massive and deep to keep them standing. But it’s the exact opposite. They have a very shallow root system. But because there is so many trees the roots are entangled together and eventually meshed as nearly one large root system that is amazingly strong. They are holding each other up.

This is how God intended us to live. Entangled in a community with others and bearing each others burdens.

If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.
1 Corinthians 12:26

Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
Galatians 6:2 NIV

Dont be alone today. If your struggling reach out. You need a support system. None of us can escape the storm we all need shelter from time to time.

Start growing together with some good people and watch how strong you will be and how your able to stand through the storms of life. Soon you will be holding up the others in your community as well.


Whoa or woe?

Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter.
Isaiah 5:20 NIV

This is going to be a short blog.   I can not make this mean less.   The bible warns us about making evil good.   This world is doing this everyday and if we as Christian’s don’t take a stand against evil who will.   KILLING THE INNOCENT.   HATE IN ANY FORM.    It is a clear warning in Isaiah..   Woe to those.   So even if I spell it wrong it takes on a whole other meaning.    So many times I mess up and say whoa instead.  Well….maybe it’s not a mistake after all.

Definition of whoa. 1 —a command (as to a draft animal) to stand still. 2 : cease or slow a course of action or a line of thought : pause to consider or reconsider —often used to express a strong reaction (such as alarm or astonishment)



  1. great sorrow or distress.
    “they had a complicated tale of woe”
    synonyms: miserysorrowdistress, wretchedness, sadnessunhappinessheartacheheartbreakdespondencydespairdepressionregretgloommelancholyMore

    • things that cause sorrow or distress; troubles.
      “to add to his woes, customers have been spending less”
      synonyms: troubledifficultyproblemtrialtribulationmisfortunesetbackreverse

      “financial woes”

So no matter what… woe or whoa it’s basically the biggest warning ever.  STOP or we are gonna have problems.

There is a better way.  It might not be our way but it is the right way.






I Love this movie. It has always been one of my husband and my favorites and default when we just can’t find something to watch.

As I watched tonight that line jumped from the scene into my heart. So many times we think that we will be exactly like our parents. If our parents were wonderful and did everything right we sometimes think that we can just hop on the back of that and all too soon after bad choices happen and our plans are derailed that we are left to handle those consequences by ourselves. The same goes for some of us that didn’t have the greatest upbringing or maybe didn’t have any at all. Maybe our parent did everything wrong and our fear is that we will end up just like them.

God made each of us with the ability to choose right and wrong for ourselves. He also made a way for the most horrific of circumstances to made right.

But in the end we have to make a choice. Will we go left or will we go right? Will we choose life or death? Good or evil?

Joshua 24:15 ESV

And if it is evil in your eyes to serve the Lord, choose this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your fathers served in the region beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

Deuteronomy 30:19

I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore choose life, that you and your offspring may live,

We make choices every single day and each one changes the outcome of our lives. Will we make the right choices that lead us in the right direction or will we be rerouted like a wrong turn on our gps. How many of us have heard that annoying voice say REROUTING. God has given us his word to show us the way that is best for our lives but I have been rerouted so many times as I try to do things my own way.

So if today you have a choice to make take the time to ask Jesus to help you. Take his way and trust that if you do you will make it to the destination so much quicker.

Goodnite friends!


1st Day ….again



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So today is Day 1 of again trying to eat clean and healthy and drink more water.  YES shedding some poundage is a goal but mostly just feeling a desperate need to be healthy and sleep better.

If you are like me this is you 198th 1st day trying to do better in this department.   I HAVE DONE IT ALL.  But one thing I REFUSE to do is QUIT!

We have to be able to get up and begin again even if we fail time and time again.  Truly there is only failure to those who stop trying.  To those who keep taking baby steps there is a whole future of possibilities ahead of us.  We just have to keep doing it.  The hard, the monotonous and the things we view as nearly impossible.  BECAUSE THERE IS NOTHING IMPOSSIBLE WITH JESUS ON OUR SIDE.   He cares about the tiniest little details of our lives to the highest life changing decisions we have to make.

Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 3:12‭-‬14 NIV

Whatever that 1st day is again for you…keep going.  You can do it!  Have faith and remember that Jesus is carrying you through the hardest parts




On the wrong feet


Thinking about boundaries today.   As parents (and nannies 😁) we have the wonderful job of imparting life lessons to our children.   It can be a real pain sometimes.  I don’t enjoy meltdowns in fact they drive me bonkers.  But they are a part of the job for both a parent and nanny alike.    I have to admit sometimes it’s just easier to let them wear thier shoes on the wrong feet.    This happened just today.  One of my little munchkins insisted that thier shoes went like that and did not want to take the time to fix it.  Against my better judgement and because of my lack of patience to deal with the hissy fit that would follow I just said ok…wear them that way.   It was only a few seconds later I heard the screams of a child who had tripped on the road and was hurt, scrapped and super sad.    PART OF ME …wanted to say I told you so.   But the rest of me won over and I scooped them up and showered them with hugs and kisses and explained why we have to wear our shoes on the feet they are made for.

I can’t tell you how many times in my life I have insisted on doing things my own way.  Despite what the bible and christian leaders and family members and friends have said.  Most of all I have had countless times where I heard God calling me to do something and ran the other way and did my own thing.   The bumps and bruises and hurts that I experienced were heartbreaking and painful but mostly humbling.    I would crawl back with my tail between my legs looking down expecting a huge I TOLD YOU SO.   Jesus never did that.  He loved me back to healthy.

As  Christians today it is so easy to look at the world and read what is going to happen to most people as you watch them go down thier destructive paths.  My prayer is that we can do what Jesus does and pick up people who are hurting and bruised and without saying anything gently Love them back to Health and maybe a relationship with Jesus.